GRAI Matters March 2022

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Dear Members, Community and Ally’s, Welcome to March, welcome to open borders. The next few months will be an interesting period. For most of the world, there is ‘COVID-fatigue’.

However, due to 2 years of shut borders, the anticipation about what may happen now becomes real for WA. There is no algorithm that we can give you, other than following what advice is available on the Healthy WA website.

If you do have concerns about any of our community members, please reach out to and Rowan can talk you through how to start a process to link them with one of our Befrienders. 

This part of the newsletter is about an invite. With the grant funding for the Village Hub, GRAI is looking at what supports we can offer LGBTIQA+ members in our community.

As I explained at the Annual General Meeting in December, GRAI needs to review the constitution to make some changes to ensure we remain relevant. We will be hosting an open forum for members on Saturday 02/04/2022 9:30 (either face to face or virtually – depending on the COVID-19 situation at the time and our ability to do it safely).

This meeting will be a place for giving feedback and electing a panel to take the work forward. 

The GRAI Constitutional Review will take place on Saturday 2nd April, between 9.30am and 12.00pm.

Please register here to receive a term of reference and reserve your place. If you would like to make a written submission to help us on this journey, please email 

Our hope in undertaking the Constitutional review is to consolidate the good work from the last few years and ensure that we maintain the heart of the organisation.

I often think about the first dinner party that led to GRAI being established and hope that we are living up to those expectations. As we continue to provide training and a place for elders’ views to be heard, we want to create a space that is supportive of our elders too. I hope this review process can help us step up together.  

With Pride,
Chair, GRAI Board


Have your say in West Australia’s Senior’s Strategy 2022-2032.

The strategy aims to:
– Support old Western Australians of all backgrounds throughout the state to achieve better life outcomes
– Help guide whole-of-community efforts to support older Western Australians to live their best life as they age
– Be implemented through two-year action plans that will connect, coordinate, and evaluate activities across State Government agencies
– Align with other State Government strategies and priorities that address older people’s needs

GRAI is conducting an in-person LGBTI Senior’s Consultation (or anyone who would prefer online) on:
Tuesday 22nd March, 10am to 12pm
Southcare Hall, 19 Pether Road, Manning
Please register using the link below:


The National LGBTI Ageing & Aged Care Training Project
Enrol for a FREE Training Course.

Delivered by LGBTI aged care specialist GRAI, these training sessions will promote a better understanding of the needs of LGBTI people, and increase the confidence of aged care staff to deliver an inclusive, best practice service.

This training is funded by the Commonwealth Department of Health as part of the National LGBTI Ageing and Aged Care Training Project and is subsidised for those working in the aged care sector.

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Did you know?

• Lack of positive recognition for LGBTI elders can cause stress and poor care outcomes.
• There are approximately 34,000 LGBTI older adults in WA: the largest special needs group requiring aged care services.

These workshops will:

• Assist your organisation to provide LGBTI inclusive care and comply with legal obligations under the Aged Care Act and the Equal Opportunities Act.
• Increase awareness and understanding of LGBTI clients and support the delivery of culturally safe and welcoming services to LGBTI elders.

This training is suitable for:

Managers, front line workers and health professionals in the aged care sector, including, residential facilities, retirement villages, community care providers and all services engaging with older members of the community.

Training program:

FULL DAY (9am-4pm) Tuesday 29 March
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Venue: Institute of Charted Accountants
Level 11, 2 Mill street Perth
Enquiries: | 0484 639 886

GRAI also offers:

 – A five-part course to achieve sustainable organisational change and ensure best practice. Be confident that your service meets the Six National Standards for LGBTI inclusivity! – Individualised training or presentations to aged care providers on request.

To discuss your organisation’s training needs, contact: | 0484 639 886


End of Life Planning: Helpful Information to Consider

This was an informative and entertaining workshop that covered three challenging but essential choices that we all need to face at some point in our lives.

Helen Tuck, a Justice of Peace outlined the differences between Enduring Power of Attorney and Enduring Power of Guardianship and stressed the importance of having a will.

Alice Herring from the WA Voluntary Assisted Dying Navigator service gave a detailed and moving description of the support and caring the staff at this service provides to those considering the voluntary assisted dying option. It is a complex but totally client-focused and client-directed option for those who may be eligible.

Lezley Herbert, a funeral celebrant, shared her expertise on the many decisions grieving and vulnerable people can be faced with when a loved one dies. If you want a funeral that respects and reflects your life and identity plan it now.

“Sometimes our families don’t know what to buy us for our birthday… Do they really know what we want for our funeral?”

Lezley Herbert

As Lezley said, “Sometimes our families don’t know what to buy us for our birthday… Do they really know what we want for our funeral?”


After cancellation in 2021 due to COVID19, Albany Pride was back bigger and better in 2022. GRAI was there for FairDay, along with the locals including a fabulous mermaid!

There was lots of interest in the LGBTI Village Hub program and we are also hoping to see a few new faces join us at the next online Queer Book Club.
The Albany Pride committee can be very proud of an amazing week of events.



Sunday 10th April 2022

As part of the City of Perth LGBTIQA+ inclusive plan, the city is starting to recognise and celebrate its LGBTI heritage.

GRAI will be hosting an event at the Perth City Library as part of the City’s Heritage weekend, Sunday 10th April 2022 from 2-5pm.

We are organising three, one-hour sessions for Lesbians, Trans Folk and Gay men who lived in Perth in the ’50s, ’60s, and ’70’s to speak about their lived experience of being LGBTI at that time.

The sessions will have 3-4 speakers in conversation with a moderator, exploring their experiences of socialising and living in Perth in the 1960-70s.

Registration for each session (Free) will be via the City of Perth website and the details will be advertised mid-March. Closer to the event GRAI will provide more information on the speakers.



GRAI’s new Befriending Program is off to a great start! We now have nine lovely Befrienders ready to go (including one in Bunbury) and three Befriending pairs have been matched and are now meeting regularly.  It has been great to see people reconnecting with the LGBTI community via their Befriender, and being able to talk about things they can’t discuss with their children or ‘straight’ folk.

Befriendee’s Wanted

Do you know someone who is a bit lonely or isolated that would like to be visited by an LGBTI peer on a weekly or fortnightly basis?

We have trans, gay, lesbian, and bi/pansexual Befrienders who would love to visit them!

We have Befrienders in the Northern suburbs, central Perth, and in Warnbro who would love to have someone to visit. All Befrienders have a police clearance and up-to-date COVID-19 vaccinations. 

If you are interested in our Befriending program, either as a participant or a volunteer, please email Rowan at to express your interest.

You can download our Befriender EOI pamphlet here. 
You can download our Befriendee Referral form here.


We are still seeking trans, non-binary or intersex elders to join us so that we can include the needs and interests of all members of our community. We would also love to include elders with an Aboriginal or Torres Strait Islander background or a CALD background.

If you have lived experience or professional experience relevant to this program, please email us at to express your interest. You can download our Elders’ Advisory Group EOI pamphlet here


GRAI is developing a GLBTI- and Elder’s-friendly Doctor’s List! If you have a GP that you would like to recommend, please contact us at and let us know their name, the practice they work from and the suburb of the practice. One lucky contributor will win a prize!
Thank you!



Does your organisation provide a service that includes LGBTI elders? Would staff or volunteers at your organisation benefit from four hours of LGBTI cultural safety training?

GRAI has received federal funding that enables us to provide two free trainings before the end of June 2022. We can accommodate 25 participants in each training. We anticipate offering our trainings early in May and late in June 2022.

Please express your interest by sending an email to outlining how the GRAI Rainbow Readiness training would benefit LGBTI elders who use your service (250 words maximum). Please tell us how many staff/volunteers would attend and whether you are happy to co-train with another organisation if your participants number less than 25.


The interest in hearing or reading LGBTI life stories continues…

GRAI has been approached by COTA (Council on The Ageing) with a request for an older LGBTI person’s interesting person story or experiences for their newsletter. The COTA newsletter goes out monthly to a wise audience.

If anyone has something that they would like to share, please write a maximum of two pages and provide a photo, if possible. Please contact Kedy Kristal (GRAI’s Executive Officer), for more information.


Your views are important

If you have news or views to share that are relevant to making the world a better place for LGBTI elders, contact: We look forward to hearing from you, or seeing you at one or several of our upcoming events!

GRAI’s new contact address:

PO Box 350
Mt Hawthorn
WA 6915

 Staff Contacts
If you would like to contact Kedy Kristal (Executive Officer), please email her at or call her Mobile: 0484 639 886

If you would like to contact Rowan Brooker (Befriender Coordinator/Newsletter Coordinator), please email him at or call him on 0493 368 023 on Wednesdays or Thursdays (or text/leave a message).


Queer BookClub continues to grow and adapt with our first online QBC for 2022 held in February to provide an option for those concerned about the impact of COVID19. The regular Face to Face also continues to be popular on the last Wednesday of each month at Connect Vic Park.

February’s book ‘Anything But Fine’ proved to be very topical insight into the lives of young queer people at high school, especially in light of the recently debated Religious Discrimination Bill.

The March book ‘Bath Haus’ is a gay thriller that takes the reader on a journey of sex, drugs, and infidelity as a murder is attempted in a gay sauna.

Copies of the book are available from Crow Books at a discount – just mention you are a Queer BookClub member.

The online meeting will be held via Teams so to obtain the meeting link please email by Mon 28 March. Full event details are available at

Queer BookClub is supported by Crow Books Vic Park and Dept of Communities.

🌈 Queer BookClub Facebook Group 📚


Meet n Muse (MnM) discussion group for older LBT women, has two locales: The Perth group has, by agreement with regular attendees, cancelled its meetings for the time being. The group will resume meeting at Citiplace when members feel comfortable to begin meeting in person again. Perth attendees are welcome to attend the Mandurah meetings, which are held outdoors.

The Mandurah group is meeting on the 1st and 3rd Sundays as usual (1.30pm), at an outdoor venue. Musers usually debate a given topic of interest for 1 hour, then mosey on to a nearby café. New members are always welcome, please contact Pam for further information and to confirm meeting dates/times and location: or 0420 929 583.


Prime Timers is a vibrant social club for mature gay and bisexual men, offering a full calendar of diverse activities to keep you well-connected and enjoying life. Meetings are held 2pm on the second Sunday of each month, at ‘The Homestead’ 5 Mackie St, Vic Park, with a guest speaker and afternoon tea. Other activities include dinner nights, coffee mornings, lunch club, book club and special outings. Visit


OUTdance is the place to go to get fit and have fun. They hold LGBTI community dance classes every Tuesday from 7:00pm at the Mt Hawthorn Community Hall, 197 Scarborough Beach Rd. Relaxed and non-competitive, OUTdance always welcomes new members. Contact Jan on 0401 700 562 or visit the website here. 


Perth Outdoors Group are mature age LGBTI folk who enjoy a wide range of social activities (not always outdoors!) Functions are held monthly on weekends and there’s also a monthly coffee club. For further info visit


Find your voice at Perth Rainbow Toastmasters! Develop confidence in public speaking, communication, leadership and presentation skills… in an LGBTI+ friendly environment…

Rainbow Toastmasters meet 1st and 3rd Sundays of the month, 2-4pm, Level 1, 931 Albany Highway. Contact Tim, or 0403 051 081. FB: Perth-Rainbow-Toastmasters.



Elder Abuse Conference
This month the 7th National Elder Abuse Conference, Walk the Talk, was held in Tasmania and delivered online, managing the 3 hour time difference was challenging.

The recent release of the first National Elder Abuse Prevalence survey was a frequent topic of conversation. For the first time, there was Australian evidence identifying Elder abuse was an issue for 15 % of the older Australian population. The current population of Australian seniors is nearly four million, with Elder abuse affecting 600,000 older Australians each year.

Prior to this prevalence survey, financial abuse had been thought to be the main driver of Elder abuse, this was based on previous data from the Australian Law Reform Commission report in 2017, Elder Abuse: A National Legal Response.

The prevalence survey found that psychological abuse was the most frequent type of data, this provides evidence for the development of new services in the community services sector that are funded and qualified to provide emotional support and trauma-informed counselling to older Australians experiencing elder abuse.
Over the two days, there were a range of speakers across numerous topics including: measuring the economic cost of Elder Abuse, reviewing the progress at a national level on addressing Financial abuse,  How Elder abuse manifests in First Nations communities and CALD communities, Elder abuse in LGBTIQ Communities.

A keynote presentation from Kimberley Jiyigas, on their excellent report on Aboriginal Financial Abuse in the Kimberly called NO MORE HUMBUG!!! delivered in December 2020, with 23 recommendations, is yet to be acted on by any of the relevant government departments, community service providers, aged care providers or banks.

For a copy of the Final Report, click here.



Source: Published online January 31, 2022

You can read the full report here.

The report is the work of over 20 international experts in the fields of medicine, palliative care, medical research, economics, religion, and philosophy. The report is a comprehensive and articulate deep dive into the existing death systems across the world, the role of family and community, the impact consumerism and choice and the dominance of the health care system, particularly in medium to high income countries.

The Commission outlines a realistic utopia, in which” life, wellbeing, death and grieving are in balance” providing some examples from Kerala, South India of a system that is closest to a possible realistic utopia.

The five principles of a realistic utopia are:the social determinants of death, dying, and grieving are tackled.dying is understood to be a relational and spiritual process rather than simply a physiological event.networks of care lead support for people dying, caring, and grieving.conversations and stories about everyday death, dying, and grief become common.death is recognised as having value.The report makes a strong link with rising global concerns about climate change, the need to reduce carbon emissions and the COVID pandemic as indicative of humanity’s loss of connection to nature and to understanding that we are part of nature, as is dying and death. The report links the emphasis in medium to high income countries to fend off death and prolong life by extensive medical interventions increases the carbon footprint of health care.  It states: “Were it a country, health care would be the world’s fifth largest emitter of greenhouse gases”

One option that reduces your carbon emissions after death, is to opt for alkaline hydrolysis. Alkaline hydrolysis dissolves the body, has one seventh the carbon footprint of cremation and the end product can be used as a fertiliser. Archbishop Desmond Tutu made this choice.

The report looks at the role and practices of palliative care in health systems, the increase in assisted dying options in many countries, the massive inequalities of health care in low income countries, and how recently these changes have occurred in western societies.

A challenging but very informative report.


Do you have a book or movie review that you would like to share?
We would love to be able to share good LGBTI movies that you have seen, or books that you have read. You don’t have to write more than a paragraph 🙂

Please send your reviews to Rowan at


Key Dates in MARCH 

Broome Mardi Gras  Festival  2-7th March
International Women’s Day  8th March
Harmony Day  21st March
Transgender Visibility Day 31st March 
(started in 2009 by trans activist Rachel Crandell to celebrate the lives of trans people, their lives and their achievements).
International Asexuality Day  31st March  

Equality Australia Federal Election Survey

The Equality Australia team is preparing a questionnaire for the political parties to find out what their positions are on the issues that impact LGBTIQ+ people, but first, they need to know what matters most to you.
 Community survey open until 11th March

Sydney World Pride 2023 Human Rights Conference Survey 

Help us make the Sydney World Pride 2023 Human Rights Conference unmissable

In March 2023, Sydney, Australia will host the first World Pride ever held in the Asia Pacific region.

The Human Rights Conference will be the centrepiece of Sydney World Pride 2023, shining a spotlight on global, regional and domestic human rights issues facing people based on their sexual orientation, gender identity and expression, and variations in sex characteristics.

It’s an incredible opportunity to come together and build a world in which all of us are free and equal, no matter who we are or whom we love. But we need your help to shape the conference into something powerful, leaving a legacy for years to come.

We want to hear from you about what would make the Human Rights Conference engaging and empowering for you and our communities, including the suggested themes, speakers and experience.

Can you help us by completing a 10-minute survey?
All questions are optional. Your responses will be kept confidential and you can remain anonymous.

Once this survey has closed, we will publish a report about what we heard and how you can get involved as we look forward to March 2023 together.

TransFolk of WA Consultation Survey

Hello friends, 
TransFolk of WA has been serving the trans and gender diverse community in WA since 2012. You might have noticed that, since 2020, we’ve seen a lot of growth and a lot more exposure. More and more community members are reaching out for our services. 
We want to make sure we grow in the right direction and provide the kinds of services that community members want and need. So, we are reaching out to our community, our members, our partner organisations, and our stakeholders to give us feedback. We want to know who you think TransFolk of WA is, and who you think we could and should be. 
We’ve created a very short survey to ask you for your thoughts. It should take you less than 10 minutes to complete, and we’d be extremely grateful if you could give us your thoughts. If you have more thoughts to offer, we will also be running more in-depth consultations, either one on one or in small groups. If you’re interested, you can provide your details at the end of the survey and we will contact you with more information. 
All data (other than any provided to contact you) will be made anonymous and compiled, so you will not be identifiable unless you choose to be! If you have any questions about this, please email  
Please consider completing the survey if you have a moment, and please share it with others who might have valuable thoughts. We really do want to support our community, and we need you to make sure we’re doing it right.
The survey closes on the 9th of March. 
Hunter Gurevich

Stroke Research

My name is William Kokay and I am a PhD candidate at the University of Sydney (Sydney, Australia).

I am currently recruiting for an international study which is exploring the impact of stroke on sexuality in LGBTIQ+ stroke survivors and their partners.

My research aims to explore how sexuality is experienced by LGBTQI+ persons and their partners following stroke. This information is critical in order to develop best practice interventions to support sexual health and well-being among this population.

The study is open to people who are (i) Aged 18 years and older (ii) living in Australia, New Zealand, USA, Canada or United Kingdom (iii) identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer / questioning or intersex (iv) have experienced a stroke or are a partner of a person who has experienced a stroke.

Participation involves an interview with me – you can find further information at:

Mr William Kokay
PhD Candidate
Sydney School of Health Sciences
+61 2 8627 7766

Reimagining Home

Older single women 55+ ageing well in their communities of choice
What’s your preferred option for home?

Come and explore
MARCH 11 2022
11.30AM – 1.30PM

Refreshments will be served.

Spaces limited, register at
or call 9361 2904

This event has been supported by a Department of Communities Women’s Grant, Reimagining Home & Connect Victoria Park Inc

Older single women from all cultures are welcome as well as LGBTQIA+ older women. 

Do You Know Any WA LGBTI Centenarians?

The Centenarian Portrait Project by Teenagers is a community arts project that promotes intergenerational friendships, celebrates life at 100 (in all its forms) and fights the negative ageing stigma. Each rendition of the program involves 100 teenage artists and 100 centenarians. A life-affirming intergenerational process culminates in an art exhibition presenting 100 portraits of 100-year-olds by local teenage artists.

 For most artists it is a chance to meet a centenarian for the first time; for centenarian subjects, a chance to share their story and for both generations a memorable exchange of perspectives. Each artist is matched with their subject geographically or linguistically.

The Embraced team makes the initial introduction, ensuring pairs to get to know one another in a supported environment. The artists visit their subject multiple times; mapping out sketches, taking photos and playing the occasional game of dominos.

 The artists then return to their studios to complete their artwork. Accompanying each portrait is an statement about the experience, their subject and life at 100.
After each exhibition concludes, our centenarians are gifted their portrait as a keepsake, and a reminder; ageing is a journey, and we are all on it together
This project has been running since 2017 and has already been an outstanding success culminating in an exhibition of paintings in seniors week in Victoria, NSW, QLD , currently it is beginning in South Australia and  Tasmania and will come to WA in May 2022.

Check it out at

‘We need to remember that the older generations have a voice, have lived full and joyous lives with wonderful experiences and we need to honour them in their golden years.’

The Global Pride Study

Are you an LGBTQITS (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, two-spirit, non-binary, or sexual or gender diverse) adult aged 18 years or older? We need your help with a ground-breaking project!

 Project Overview
The Global Pride Study, Global Health, Sexuality and Gender: Longevity Across Generations, is a collaboration of more than 50 scholars from across the globe. The project is designed to address health and well-being holistically in sexual and gender minority populations, including quality of life, physical and mental health, and economic and social lives.

This project builds upon the special double issue that was edited by Karen Fredriksen Goldsen and Brian de Vries, which included 15 papers representing 10 countries across 6 continents on sexual and gender diverse ageing, longevity, and health.

As a result of the tremendous response we received in developing this special issue and the way in which it has been received since its publication, we reached out to researchers and collaborators across the globe, including Australia, Argentina, Brazil, Canada, China (Mainland), Colombia, Czechia, Hong Kong, India, Israel, Japan, Mexico, New Zealand, Nigeria, Pakistan, Poland, Scotland, South Africa, Taiwan, United Kingdom (Britain and Scotland), and the United States of America.

Based on a series of virtual meetings with these international colleagues, all of whom have shared their enthusiasm about this international project, we formulated the project overview below.

Primary Goals of Research Project

Develop an international network of researchers to share knowledge and experiences in studying sexuality, gender, health (holistically), and longevity, as well as the impact of COVID-19 on diverse global communities, including age, sexual and gender diverse and LGBTQTSIA+ communities.

Create an inventory of the cultural and structural contexts around the globe, across languages and existing institutional structures and policies impacting sexual and gender diverse lives.

Implement a pilot research project by drafting and circulating a pilot questionnaire within each region, taking into consideration differing cultural contexts and methodologies.

Build upon the above and develop a large-scale funded international research project to explore these issues more fully and deeply.

The proposed study will be impactful including both ‘academic impact’ (the intellectual contribution to a field of study) and ‘social or societal impact’ (the knowledge generated by research and how this contributes to, benefits and influences society).

From the vantage point of regions with real economic challenges, there is an opportunity to frame the debate and conversation about health, sexuality, gender, and longevity research (and experiences) in the context of these realities: How, in resource differing countries or regions, do you develop research strategies that help focus on pressing problems? How in environments with differing experience, trust or knowledge of science do you talk about the value of sexuality and gender research and evidence?
There are four key stages to this work:

1: Initiate a series of virtual meetings with international colleagues to discuss interest and ideas for an international sexuality, health and longevity project and to finalize the research team;
 2: Chronicle the cultural and structural context of sexuality, gender, age, longevity and health across countries and regions;
3: Examine sexual, gender, health and longevity by developing and pilot testing a data collection tool;
 4. Assess the feasibility of moving the project to scale.
Facilitative Mediation for Older People
Facilitative mediation for Older People is a free, impartial confidential and voluntary process that older people can engage with during the early stages of conflict with families or friends. The mediators do NOT provide any advice, legal or otherwise. They help facilitate difficult conversations.

If you are an older person who wants to address family or friend conflict as early as possible by having difficult conversations about issues such as health, social or living arrangements that protect your rights, interests and safety.

Contact the mediator on 9440-1663

Need aged care services?
Don’t know how or where to begin?

MY AGED CARE is the starting point to access Australian government-funded aged care services. The phone line and website can help older Australians, their families and carers to get the help and support they need. or
phone the MY AGED CARE contact centre on 1800 200 422.